Speaking Carefully

Did you know what you say to other people can make a significant impact on how they view themselves?

I know we always know that what we say matters, but I can remember a girl not dating me because my shoes weren’t as cool as Jared’s. I also remember when Gina broke up with me when I had to run a few extra laps to cut weight.

What you say matters! So think before you spout off. The ripple effect of how you treat someone is enormous… so let it be a wave of positivity.

So many people have these words that people threw on them and they carry them around like extra pounds. They judge themselves over and over because they believe that how one person sees them might be the way the entire world sees them.

Cut the shit. Don’t let people do that. Call it out. When you hear someone, stop them. Be direct. Explain why it is wrong or you basically are co-signing their views. Don’t you dare be indifferent. 

Open Arms or Bear Arms

So our country and friendship circles seem to be teeming with the debate of whether or not we should accept Syrian refugees into our country, yet most of us know little about their people, their culture or their beliefs.

We seem to be certain that therye is either: a lot of terrorists infiltrating our country disguised as refugees -OR- hordes of helpless, innocent people caught in the crossfire of a war that isn’t theirs.

The Numbers: The Syrian Civil War has claimed over 310,000 lives. This might seem like a lot, but 90% of these people were actively engaged in the war. Imagine if ISIS fulfills their promise to attack Washinton, D.C. and claim the lives of approximately half of its residents. This would be equivilent to the total known loss of life from the Syrian Civil War, which is approaching its 5th year…One half of our nation’s capitol.

In comparison the numbers are strikingly lower, but consider those innocent people, the 10%… They have lost 27 times the amount of people we have due to terrorism, all in the span of 5 years. We lost 3,300 with the tragic events of 9-11 and since then we have lost dozens each year. Remember how you felt? Remember the insecurity? Imagine if those kind of acts became your reality for five years. Every life has value and war is a place for soldiers not civilians. Getting the innocents out of the mix makes it easier for the forces fighting ISIS.

Take a look at this image and think about the number of people who have fleed rom their hometowns to stay safe.

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What if we find a way to help them yet refrain from making ourselves vulnerable? Perhaps we could use some of the FEMA camps that our government built across the US to house them and to process them safely.

We have the technology to determine which individuals are known to be associated with ISIS and decrease risks by keeping the people under high security for their and our protection.

Who is picking up the tab? Funding this is a major challenge and a large portion of the debate. This is mostly because we have what appears to be an unplayable debt, yet we keep cutting checks. Our commonwealth can’t pass a budget and it wants to pay for the care of other people? I understand the frustration and outrage. I  imagine all of you wish you could do what our leadership does without being charged a fee for insufficient funds. We could all “make it rain!”

I’ve heard people complain that we take care of everyone else rather than each other. I couldn’t agree more. We should take care of each other, but we could take care of others as well. We aren’t the only people pitching in. If we can have corporate sponsors for presidents, why not for the aid of a country. I’m sure we have some people without jobs who could help take care of people for a stipend, but it’s easier just to add it to the invisible deficit.

While I would like to help, I am not willing to bring a homeless person into my house to live with my wife and children. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with a Syrian refugee either but that doesn’t mean that I can’t do something.

So how do we pay for it?

Perhaps we have them work and earn their keep. I’m sure there are creative, skilled, caring, intelligent and able people in those crowds.

Many would argue, once the civilians are gone we could turn their land into a glass ash tray, right? Maybe we then recover their oil and remaining resources and claim it as our own.

It would be nice if it was that simple, but there are now over 12 countries involved in what started as protests and has transformed as attempt at genocide and the eradication of Christian people.

While I am no expert, I know they our nation is a darker place than it once was. I get why people outside of our country don’t like us, but this isn’t just about Americans. ISIS seeks to do what Christians did to Muslims during the Crusades; convert or massacre. They believe they are following their god’s will in doing so.

They will reclaim Damascus as the capital of their Caliphate and will press on to attempt to reconstruct a powerful Muslim nation that many believe will lead to Armageddon. Without getting into too much detail, these Muslims aren’t the peaceful ones. These are the  “boom” kind of Muslims.

Whether you are a Christian or not, you need to understand that ISIS seeks to kill those who aren’t like them, so we are all at risk.

The Point: The decisions being made have major consequences, but regardless of whether we help people or not, the war us coming to our turf, so we might as well get ready.

Who will come to our aid when our land is pockmarked, our buildings rubble, and our people persecuted? I guess our best defense is to get to know our neighbors and begin to be communities again. Perhaps we invite these people into our culture like we have in the past. If we do it properly, we can do it safely. There will always be risks of terrorism, be it foreign or domestic, but I understand that the risks are increasing. SoI guess I’ll leave this one up to you.

Open Arms or Bear Arms: What do you think?

The Right Fit

I just came to the realization that finding our place in the world is much like trying on jeans.

imageThink about it. We go through these phases in life where everything just feels right. Regardless of how worn or imperfect, we know that it’s a fit, and feel content…despite any flaws. Then there are those moments when things don’t feel the same. It’s as if the jeans have shrunk or we have gained a few pounds, and all of the sudden the perfect fit becomes constricting and feels claustrophobic.

It’s one of the worst feelings in the world. It confirms for us that something has changed. Usually we are aware of the change as is taking place because it’s an active, obvious change. However, when it’s something that is sudden, it can blindside is. It’s like trying on a pair of skinny jeans when we were expecting relaxed fit. Our reaction is “What the hell?” and we scramble to look for a tag or label, anything that can indicate that the issue isn’t us, but some times it is.

We need to be okay with trying things on, and understand that the first is not always the best fit. At the same time, it would be wreckless to discard a great fit when it’s us that needs to change. It could be your job, your marraige, your friendship… It could be anything.

Change is an essential part of life, so we must be flexible enough to know when to give an extra tug and when it’s just not us anymore. Read More

Instant Financial Freedom: What’s Next?

We’ve all thought about what life would be like if we had financial freedom. I would like to gather some data. I’m interested to see what everyone out there would do if they no longer needed to work. Don’t worry, I won’t even know who the responses came from. What would you do?

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The Ticket to Regrets

imageRegrets can be crippling. I’m not talking about wishing I had purchased a lottery ticket, because that really doesn’t relate to me. I don’t buy them. I’m not talking about speeding tickets or parking tickets, both of which I have had my share and quickly paid. Yet, to some people, they have these regrets.

In life, it often seems like the most inconsequential decisions are laden with consequences. Somehow one thing leads to another and one small decision leads us down a track of irrevocable regret. It sucks. One blown taillight has led to many people being incarcerated. Read More

For All You New Parents Out There

For all you new parents out there, I have some advice for you. You may want to sit down. Tessa and I will soon be welcoming number three to our home and over the last 6 years, I’ve learned a few things. If it doesn’t help, it will at least make you laugh.

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Gentlemen: If you never did your own laundry you better get used to reading care labels, because you are going to wash and ruin more things than you care to replace. When it doubt, wash it on cold. Dry on low. It might take longer, but you won’t ruin it… Well, unless it was dry clean only, but in that case you already messed up.

In addition to now doing more laundry, you get to purchase more things, smaller things than you are accustomed to, that are convenient when you are looking to trip in dim lighting or are carrying the aforementioned loads of laundry.

Your house will NEVER be clean again. God bless your efforts, because we all try yet find ourselves surrounded by fingerprints, crumbs, and Cheerios.

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Welcome

Many of my friends and family members have urged me to begin writing a blog. I’d never given it much thought, but I suppose if I can share posts on a social media site and people identify with me; I might as well.


I’m not promising that this blog will offer much more than entertainment, but I hope that it helps all of us be more aware of the amazing in the ordinary, and the opportunities awaiting in the adversity that surrounds us.


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